Category Archives: Cherished Memories

Tribute to the Best of Soldiers

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Van Nathan Kitchens Junior. We just laid him to rest Saturday. It was about as glorious of an autumn day as you could ask for and the military honors were a solemn and well-appreciated addition to his departure. He would have been pleased to have seen it, and somehow, I’m pretty sure he did.

He had turned eighty-six years old in May and his health had been on the decline for the last several years, but he stayed on his feet as long as he could, although someone in the family told me he had at last resigned to forego deer-hunting this year due to his physical condition. That would have been welcome news for the local deer herd, because even at his advanced age, he was ever a yearly threat to them.

The eldest of a family of ten kids, he grew up with his hands full helping his mom and dad with his younger siblings. His dad worked at odd jobs before settling into being a butane (now days it’s all propane) delivery man, which didn’t pay much, so Van Junior, known as Rip to his family, grew up in a poor family. Once he got grown, he didn’t seem to particularly like talking about his childhood nor adolescence, and that was probably why. Not having an abundance of provender on the table when he was young could also account for his love of hunting and fishing, as it was an extraordinary welcome bounty for the family to bring home some venison or fish – it was mostly catfish back in those days, caught out of a lazy meandering old silt-laden river, the Neches, in East Texas where he spent most of his early years. He became exceptionally good at hunting and fishing; in fact, he was among the best I ever knew. He knew how to cook it up, too.

All of his brothers and sisters remember sitting around the old house late in the evenings as he told them stories – he was especially good at it, and the kids listened attentively to each yarn he would tell them, hanging onto every word. This was in the days before cell phones, neither were there TVs in every home, and certainly not in the Kitchens household, with the much-beloved Pentecostal Matriarch, Billie Jewell who would not even think of allowing a “hellivision” into the house. Looking back, those old Pentecostal believers were right about the TVs. Back when we were having the discussions about the morality of TV, harmless shows like I Love Lucy, and Leave it to Beaver were the staples, but look what it’s morphed into today.

He left home to join the Army while he was still a kid, it had to be an exuberating venture, especially to finally pass the demands of big-brothership on to younger siblings, who I’m sure were ill-prepared for the baton – Rip had grown up with it, so he undoubtedly stepped into great freedom when he put on the uniform. Rip became passionate about his service to the Army and was more loyal to its mission than most.

He grew up with a very special sister, Verna, with whom he had a special bond – more so than with his other siblings, but I guess that sort of thing happens in families, some kids become partners in crime and have closer relationships with each other than with other siblings. As youngsters Rip and Verna together experienced travails that were common to post-depression children. Especially those who happened to be children in families that were another level of poor. They both did well as adults and were able to rise above their meager beginnings. Verna passed away back in 2013 while living in Colorado, and it was a terrible loss to the whole family, but it was easy to sense it being extra tough on Rip.

His first marriage lasted long enough for he and his wife to raise a daughter, Kim, and a son, Van III, but eventually the marriage would fail, and he would go on to meet his special love, Becky, with whom he absconded to Missouri and set up a nice ranch in the Ozarks. After a while he received the tragic news that his son, Van Nathan Kitchens III, had been killed in an automobile crash out in the Colorado mountains. The son was known to the family as Bubba, and everyone in the family knew and loved him. He served in the Army and did a tour in Iraq in at least one of the operations over there. Before the accident took him, he had married and had his own son, Van Nathan Kitchens IV, who I had the pleasure of meeting at Rip’s funeral. Number IV has a son of his own, a handsome, happy toddler and of course, his name is Van Nathan Kitchens V. Rip took Bubba’s death especially hard, as would be expected, a tragic episode in life which only a parent losing a child could know.

Rip spent a lot of his time in Missouri raising beef cattle as long as he was able, then as the late autumn stage of life closed in and age began to catch up with him, he gave up tending the herd, spending his hours reading, or with Becky and occasionally with family members. He had a couple of brothers who also came to Missouri with whom he visited as often as they came by, or he could get up their way. Van was serious about the church business as well. He was a devout Sunday school teacher and was dedicated to the work of the Lord; a stalwart Christian, and he will surely awaken from his rest no longer clad in the decrepit old carcass he wore out here on earth, but in the new eternal form the Lord will bestow upon him.

The blue jays are out this time of year in Southern Missouri, and everything is peaceful as dry autumn breezes waft through gold-gilded hickories standing somberly against the indigo October sky. I go out into the woods a lot in the fall, it’s my favorite season and it reminds of days gone by long ago – an innocent time in life when Rip would take a little scamp, fifteen years his junior, with him to hunt squirrels. That little tag-along was me. He was – and ever will be – my beloved big brother.

We will see him again soon in the company of Jesus.

May God bless all and may you Rest in the blessed Peace, Van Nathan Kitchens Junior.

Special condolences to Becky and Kim.

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MK

P.S. Some of the numbers, i.e., junior, senior, IV and V, were mistakenly out of order in the earlier versions they are hopefully corrected in this edit. Sorry.

The Water of Life in a Dry Place

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It’s Monday morning here in the Ozarks, and we continue to enjoy a very mild summer, in fact it feels more like fall outside, and it’s only mid-August! As we read on the news and watch the weather reports, we are constantly bombarded with news about horrible weather events around the world, droughts, heat waves, storms and floods, so we are thankful here for the nice weather God has bestowed upon us.

I opened my mail from over the weekend and one of the letters was a request for financial assistance from one of the American Indian schools, this one in Montana. It is the St. Labre Indian School in Ashland. They got a quote for a new water purification system for the reservation and are in pretty dire straits, because what they need is going to cost north of 700,000, and as we all know, Indian reservations are typically not very well off financially – they need help.

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The lifestyle to which they’ve been relegated today

Now I don’t know how everyone feels about a responsibility to help these people, but we all know the stories of how our forebears forcibly took over the country from them, and in the process they committed some very atrocious misdeeds. Acts such as giving the tribes blankets that were intentionally contaminated with smallpox, and the white man’s army decimating their villages, killing everyone, even children are among those acts of genocide that have been reported, and which there are no reasonable grounds to doubt.

For much of my life as I learned of the atrocities, the broken treaties, and the terrible ways that our ancestors treated the Indians, I’ve felt that if only there was something I could do to try and make it up to them, it would be the least I could do, so I try to help out as I can. I well understand that there’s nothing substantive we can do to rewrite history in any honest way, and it would be a waste of time to attempt to, but there are some things we can do to at least help to alleviate the tragic suffering they still endure, the squalid living conditions they face daily. For the living standards we enjoy in this beautiful country our fathers took by force, I think we should consider making a nominal effort to help these folks out and helping them to be able to get clean drinking water isn’t too much to ask.

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I’ve never gotten involved in fund raising of any kind – this website isn’t even monetized – so I really don’t know how to start with this, but I’m sure that there are readers out there who might be able to help, and to be honest, a person should be able to just send some financial support to the St. Labre school, either mail it or send it through one of the ways they have set up to receive support. Your help is tax-deductible. Here’s their info:

There are readers of this site from all walks of life and in lots of diverse places. Some college kids read folkpotpourri, and it would be a monumental help for this cause to get word out on some of the campuses and lets see what we can do to help St Labre.

As a bonus, I’ll link a tribute from Folkpotpourri to the Indian folks from some time ago.

Remember, Jesus said whoever gives even a cup of water to His servants in His name, there will be a reward. Mark 9:41

For whoever gives you a cup of water to drink in My name, because you belong to Christ, assuredly, I say to you, he will by no means lose his reward. The St. Labre school is a Christian school. It will make you feel better in your heart when you help those in need.

Come on folks, get the checkbook, but just as importantly the word, out – there’s something we can do to help here and to amend some wrongs from the past.

God bless you all,

MK

Reflections on Grandpa’s Little Varmint

There’s a pair of smallish work boots in the spare bedroom and a few other knick-knacks she left when she was last here.  There’s a big smile she left in my heart too.  It’s mine now and it will always be, and it’s one of the few things that hasn’t been claimed by cobwebs.  Literal and figurative cobwebs – but those ginkgo supplements do help. I doubt if she thinks about this old Ozark farm very often these days. 

Maybe someday my fond memories of her will fade like everything else seems to as I arrive at a stage of my journey through this existence I used to consider to be life.  Having turned seventy years old last year, I guess I’ve finally come to realize life isn’t what I once thought it is supposed to be – in a way it’s sort of disappointing, but in another way, it’s sort of a relief.  I no longer have to try and live up to a lot of the expectations I always felt I needed to achieve.  In a way, it’s like taking a burden of pride off my shoulders.  Priorities change.  Many unfulfilled dreams have long been packed away – mostly in silent corners of outbuildings, likely never to be reopened, never to be realized, nor indeed remembered, once I take that last hike. Anyways, most of those expectations were those I placed on myself, so I’m free to discard them at will.

On the brighter side, there are some advantages to arriving at geezerhood.  Things that used to be so important to me now seem to carry less significance.  I’m able to “zoom out” and get an albeit belated, fresh perspective.  I’m sure she’ll get there someday too, but for now she’s in that glorious process of spreading those precious little wings – I remember that phase of my own life, and that of my daughters, and at the most significant level – as it should be – I’m able to excuse her for having left me to wipe a tear away once in a while as I reflect on tidbits of her presence with me – like those dusty work boots.  And that priceless smile.

She’s away in college and life is undoubtedly teaching her those lessons us aged creatures have learned through the years, and when she gets to the point in life where I am, she’ll surely understand that the lessons she learned outside the classroom are among the most important of them all.  I hope some of the things she learned out in the woods when those boots were on her feet will be among them.  Of course, she’d never be caught wearing work boots where she is now – we bought them for her when she was up here on the farm visiting.  They kept her feet warm and saved her toes from accidentally dropped firewood as she helped me with chores.  Maybe she’ll make it back up here while I’m still around.  What a lift for this old heart to see her!

I remember when we lived out in Colorado when she was just a pup.  Her family lived with me then, in fact she and her mom had lived with me since she was born.  She was maybe four or five years old.  Around Pueblo where we lived, there isn’t much rain – it’s semi-arid prairie country – but we did get some rain in the spring and it filled up ditches and holes, only to rapidly evaporate when the blazing Southern Colorado sun returned.  The creatures of the prairie take advantage of the sparse rainfall, mostly in reproductive pursuits, and little frogs lay thousands of eggs in every water hole – eggs which would quickly hatch.  We had one such waterhole in a ditch about a quarter of a mile down the dirt road from our place, and one day after a recent rain, she and I happened to walk by it and saw thousands of tiny tadpoles struggling in the muddy but still precious water.  By the time we saw them, the sun was already beating mercilessly on the rapidly drying terrain, and I casually mentioned to her that those little guys wouldn’t make it because the hole would dry up before they got grown.  Later that day and for the next several days I watched as she put a five-gallon bucket on her little wagon and filled it with water from the garden hose and a little biped mammal trudged down the road to pour it in the puddle so the diminutive baby amphibians could survive.  What a heart God put in that little angel!

Her mom got married to a fine young fellow and they eventually got a family started and moved away – tore a big chunk out of my old ticker to have to part with them.  These days she goes to college and plays the clarinet in the college wind orchestra.  She picked it up in high school and got really good at it.  For anyone who might get the impression that I’m bragging on my granddaughter, well ok I am, so I’ll add that in her senior year in the Lufkin high school she made first chair in the all-Texas State band.  I guess that means she was the best high school clarinet player in the whole state. 

Here in the Ozarks the dogwoods are about to open out their blooms, I expect in about three weeks.  Their buds are swelling, and the woods are going to come alive with rivers of snow-white flowers flowing brightly along all the roads.  Weather conditions in the spring vary with rainfall, late cold spells, and such, so some years the blooms are more extravagant than others.  Though they are always pretty, a couple of years ago we had a really spectacular bloom.  Up until then, I had never seen such a beautiful sight in the woods.  It’s just impossible to describe – there’s a touching emotional component to such a sight.  It really puts you in a mood to tell God how much you appreciate His grace for giving us things like that on this old earth.  Alyssa wasn’t here to see it, and pictures just don’t do it justice.  Maybe on some spring break down the road she’ll make it here to enjoy a dogwood bloom.  I get this mental image of her wearing her bulky work boots out in the woods, watching in silence and awe as a spring breeze gently caresses those boughs of snowy decadence.  That smile of hers would shine for sure!

I have to close here and get to some spring chores.  Though I love her and miss her, at my age I understand how life works, and with the wonderful company of two of my daughters, a few precious in-and-out grandkids, a great son-in-law, and my beloved dogs I’m not really lonely.  Alyssa has a boyfriend now and lots of things going on in her world.  She’ll (hopefully) finish college and get on with her life as an adult, maybe raise some kids of her own, and who knows?  I might still be around to enjoy them every now and then.  

But for now, there’s firewood to split and a garden to till – life in the Ozarks goes on.

MK

Lofty Pastures

High up on the tops of the ridges, forest became lea.

Yesterday his sister called and said his water wasn’t working.  I was kind of busy, but as I’ve become accustomed, dropped everything and went over to see what needed to be done.  I’d already put a temperature-controlled heater in his pump house, but it’s not sufficient in extreme cold due to the gaps in the walls.  You’d have to see that collapsing old pump house to appreciate what it’s like to try and work in there, but we’ve had some -10F temps this winter, and a hydrant valve must have frozen and busted.  Now that it has warmed up, the thing was spraying, and had been for who knows how long.  Anyway, I had to make a trip into town and get a new faucet and put it on, and the job went smoothly enough.  Afterwards I reconciled myself, as always, to the obligatory visit in which to hear stories and anecdotes on how clueless all the young people are nowadays and hopefully hear some of his unparalleled stories of the old days.  I always listen – I enjoy listening to those tales, even the ones I’ve heard before, which by now is most all of them.  After doing the job in that wretched pump house, it was nice to be out and sit and talk with him.  I’ve also learned over the years that when it’s time to go home, it’s not necessarily impolite to leave him talking.  He doesn’t seem to mind; in fact, he doesn’t really seem to even notice.  There’s just no other way to go about it.  He doesn’t stop.  And as it’s so captivating to listen to him, if I don’t keep in mind that I have to go, I could get hooked for hours, and believe me, I have.

Old dilapidated pickup trucks and pieces of road maintenance equipment, some from the 1940s, silently sit in varying states of rust and decay, some hidden in the woods, others proudly rusting in the open sunshine of hay fields where beef cattle grazed not so long ago.  It’s almost as if they’re watching; waiting, but for what?

Many years ago, and for years, he cleared the hill tops of the hardwood forests that are prevalent in this part of the country.  Cleared timber and rocks to make hay fields and grazing pastures, and there are acres and acres of them.  Said his dad paid him ten cents a wagon load of rocks, long piles of which are still lying along the fence lines where he took them all those years ago.

Timberline Road in the Fall

There’s an old barn down the dirt road, Timberline Road, that he built with his own hands as an adult, but also many years ago.  Due to all of the cow fertilizer which accumulated there, and the fact that the cows are gone, weeds and vines are growing profusely all around it, winding up through rolls of used wove-wire fence, unidentifiable pieces and parts of farm equipment, and rusty gate sections.  Back in the days before he got into the beef cattle business, he ran dairy cows there and attended to all the labor-intensive operations of feeding, milking, delivering calves, and the numerous other duties required.  The fading and peeling white paint testifies to the many silent years gone by since the milk days.  He morphed from dairy to raising beef cattle somewhere along the line, but in the last few years, he sold off his herd – just got too old to work them anymore.  He sure has been lonesome there with all those old cows gone.  Sometimes in decent weather I go over and ride with him on his ATV, and we go over his property, just like we did when we rode around to see his cows, but now that they’re gone, he just stares wistfully across the lonely fields he spent so much of his life working. Sometimes I wonder if he still sees cows and hears them lowing out in those silent fields of yesterday.

The Old Milk Barn

I’ve been living here going on five years, sort of across and about a half-mile down the dirt road from his house, an ancient homemade hardwood mountain hovel with a rusty tin roof – all precariously perched on the east slope of the hollow.  I live in the bottom of the same hollow sort of on the west side.  Not long after I moved here, there was a big dead tree still standing on his side of the road and since I had already done some odd jobs for him (free of charge of course), he always wanted to pay me for helping him but I wouldn’t take any money, so I went over to his place and asked him if I could cut it – we could square up with firewood – the tree needed to be felled because eventually it would come down in a high wind and land on the road.  He okayed it and even grabbed his chain saw and showed up on his giant tractor to help.  I was impressed that a fellow his age could still get out there and sling a chain saw like he did.  Someone forgot to tell him he was too old to do that.  But alas, age has overtaken him now, and he couldn’t work firewood anymore.

In the years I’ve known him, I’ve spent many an hour listening to his stories of life here in the Ozarks – mostly stories from long ago.  A tough customer of a hardscrabble life in the Ozark hills, he’s suffered his share of accidents – once in a sawmill a piece of wood flew out of a saw and hit him in the left eye.  He had to go find a friend to take him to Springfield (about 75 miles away) to the doctor, but they couldn’t save the eye.  Years later as an old man with only one eye he can still see deer in the woods that most folks (including myself) don’t see.

He was working out in the woods cutting timber when he was younger, and felled a tree which came down in an unexpected way, and landed on his leg.  He called his friend who was working with him to help him and he got free and finished cutting wood and loading the truck.  It was only after he got back to the mill that he took off his boot and looked at his injury – his lower leg and ankle was broken in three places!  And he’d kept on working.  He tells another story of operating a tractor that flipped over backwards and trapped his foot under the steering wheel.  He said gasoline was pouring from the tank right next to him, and the engine was still running.  He had to cut his boot off to get free, and he did.  He never said whether the tractor burned up after he got away.  He was definitely a tough old codger.

He’s got a big buck cape mount covered with dust in the living room of his farm house.  It’s got a huge spread – one of the biggest racks I’ve seen in person, but he never had it scored.  I’m sure it would make book.  He relishes telling the story of how he got it.  Wasn’t even hunting.  He stepped out of the door of the farmhouse down the road where his sister now lives, and saw the giant buck about 75 yards away, and went back into the house and got his gun and stepped back out and bagged it.  There were family members in the house when he walked back in and told them he’d shot a big buck, they walked out in disbelief to see it.  Sure enough, a monster buck was on the ground out there.

There’s a lone walnut tree in the hay field south of his house, on a slope down to the road.  He tells me that’s where he wants to be buried – right under that tree.  The tree stands patiently waiting.  Maybe that’s what the old relic barns and vehicles scattered around are waiting for too.  Who knows?

He’s grown old now, and his health is failing.  Has diabetes, heart problems, arthritis or gout in his knees that hurts him so bad he can barely walk, and the good Lord only knows what else might be going on in that old carcass.  He has to use a cane to get around anymore.  His mind wanders and he has a lot of trouble remembering things.  We recently talked and he mentioned that he might be interested in a nursing home.  I encouraged him to do that, he is at a point where he can’t take care of himself.  Hopefully he will make that call, I’m sure he’d be better off, but this old neighborhood and those hay pastures will never be the same without him.